Features:
1. World conflict (Manisha Rose Snoyer) 2. Personal conflict (Dr. Laura Markham) 3. Inner conflict (multiple resources)
Conflict is not fun. Conflict is exciting! No one likes conflict. Conflict can make us physically sick. The fastest, deepest change can only be realized by conflict.
Conflict is everywhere.
… There are (no surprise) many conflicting sentiments around the idea of conflict. And the hardest thing to accept about these may be that, actually, they are all true.
In an argument, two people may deeply believe differently——even about the idea of arguing, itself. One thinks, “This is fun! I love to debate, because I learn so much from it & help others grow.” The other shuts down, physically & emotionally, strictly thinking, “I hate conflict & only want it to end right now.” These differing viewpoints widen the gap around the subject of the argument.
Conflict is inherent.
Our 45th issue of We Build Better Humans focuses on 3 Levels of Conflict & tools for each. Peace be with you … even in conflict.
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World Conflict
Starting with the macro naturally brings us to the micro, or interior. Substack creator Manisha Rose Snoyer of
shares one perspective (a wide & well-thought-out one at that) on talking to our kids about this Big Subject——including a helpful 4-step framework:Seek to understand yourself first before you begin
Listen with your whole body to the child
Inquire together, continuing to dig deeper
Take action
Here’s her whole concept in video format:
And here’s my favorite quote from the video:
“Taking constructive action is so vital to our mental health.”
- Manisha Rose Snoyer
Personal Conflict
From sibling rivalry to bullying to the pros & cons of competition, conflict is in many ways the wallpaper of our world. It’s a natural part of group dynamics. These tools from Dr. Laura Markham can help:
Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings - a follow up to her original book, this one homes in on sibling rivalry.
This week, I also received an inbox article from Dr. Markham’s team about toddler playground conflict, literally over sharing in the sandbox. What a great early-life lesson that becomes the pattern for peacemaking!
Inner Conflict
Anxiety - Kelly of Happy You, Happy Family shares this list of 30 Hidden Signs of Anxiety in Children That You Need to Know (broken into 15 phrases & 15 behaviors).
The Roots of Anxiety - Brian R. King, MSW IDs these 7 common roots: low self-esteem, perfectionism, comparison, self-criticism, insecurity, fear of failure, imposter syndrome.
Self-Discipline - Valerie Huard & JM Tetreault of DoWell share regular tips on decluttering strategies——linked directly to the inner turmoil of trauma that so typically precedes this. In addition to their book & podcast, they’re now offering coaching with discovery calls.
Disconnection - The modern pace of life can leave us feeling disconnected from ourselves, our families, our communities & even the natural world. One antidote is taking a nature walk with intention. Montessori Laboratory shares a teaching framework for exploring your own backyard.
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Thank YOU!
The sign-offs from each of these & other in-box creators was deeply satisfying for me to read over the last few weeks. So, I’m sharing my faves of these, too:
“Let peace be in your heart.”
-Manisha Rose Snoyer
“Thanks for being you.”
-Brian R. King, MSW